Traditionally, the holidays are for spending time with family and friends, perhaps with a varying degree of rituals or practices.

There's also pressure not to miss certain celebrations, but there will be times you can't make it – whether by choice or circumstance.

So, if you're spending the holidays alone this year, you're actually not alone in wondering if it's okay to be alone. You hold the ticket to your happiness, even if you're spending the holidays (or any special day of the year) in a less conventional way—all by yourself. There's no correct formula for how to spend the holidays, experts say, and keeping that in mind is key when you're not going to be around your loved ones.

Spending the holidays Alone

Spending the holidays alone can feel lonely or empty, but it doesn't have to be that way. Loneliness is an issue during the winter holidays for many, according to experts. Not having people to spend the days with can compound existing loneliness during the holiday times.

1. Step outside for some fresh air

Going on a hike, taking a walk in a park, or immersing yourself in nature can be beneficial. The benefits of being in nature are plenty, from lowering anxiety to improving mood and reducing blood pressure. Simply taking a walk in nature can lead to better mental health.

2. 'Zoom in' to celebrate

Staying connected with loved ones through phone calls or video calls can help improve well-being. Social experiences are important for mental health, so reaching out to positive social connections can lessen stress and improve coping mechanisms.

3. Volunteer where people need help

Engaging in volunteering activities can be beneficial for those spending the season alone. Helping others not only benefits them but can also positively impact one's own mental well-being.

4. Treat yourself to something nice

Cooking a special meal, ordering takeout, or indulging in a nice dinner can make the holiday season alone more enjoyable. Finding ways to treat yourself can enhance the experience.

5. Rituals

Creating personal rituals or routines can make the holidays feel special. Engaging in activities like taking a hot bath or playing a sport can be nurturing and fulfilling.

6. Get a head start on your to-do list

Using the alone time to accomplish tasks or work on projects can give a sense of accomplishment and purpose.

7. Reflect on the year

Reflecting on the past year and setting goals for the new year can be a productive way to spend the holiday season alone. Planning intentionally and structuring thoughts can pave the way for a positive start to the upcoming year.

8. Shifting your mindset

Practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment can help alleviate feelings of loneliness during the holiday season. Focusing on the present and accepting the reality of the situation can be empowering.

9. Compassion for yourself

Being compassionate with yourself and acknowledging that it's okay to spend the holidays alone is important. Remembering that alone time can be valuable and necessary for self-care is vital during this time.

Celebrating the holidays when you're alone | Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins